Alex's Answer

Hi there! Welcome to Ask Alex.

 

First, thank you so much for reaching out and sharing your feelings. It takes a lot of courage to open up about something so personal, and it’s important that you know you’re not alone in this.

 

It sounds like you’re under a lot of stress and anxiety, and it’s understandable to feel overwhelmed, especially when dealing with a secret relationship. Have you thought about why you might feel bad about this relationship? Sometimes our feelings are trying to tell us something important, and it’s good to listen to them.

 

One thing to consider is the nature of your relationship with your teacher. Teachers have a duty of care towards their students, meaning they are responsible for creating a safe and supportive environment for you to learn and grow. When boundaries are crossed, it can complicate things and create feelings of guilt or confusion.

 

The secrecy of the relationship might also be contributing to your anxiety. Keeping such a significant part of your life hidden can be very stressful and isolating. Relationships should make you feel good and secure, not stressed and anxious. It’s important to reflect on whether this relationship is truly in your best interest. Perhaps this article may be helpful, explaining how to create healthy relationships www.childline.ie/how-to-build-healthy-friendships-and-relationships/.

 

Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. If you feel you can’t talk to someone you know just yet, you can always call the Childline Team. We are available 24 hours a day, every day. You can contact us for free at 1800 66 66 66, or by Messenger at www.Childline.ie (just click on the purple chat icon).

 

ISPCC have an online digital programme for teenagers from 15 – 18 years, who are experiencing anxiety. It might be worth having a look at it and if you feel you could benefit from it, you could ask a parent to help sign you up for it. You can find out more about it here www.ispcc.ie/guided-digital-programmes/

 

Our service is non-judgmental and confidential. You are never alone; we are here to support you and explore your options with you. Take care of yourself, and don’t hesitate to reach out whenever you need to talk.

 

Alex