Summary
If you’ve broken up with your boyfriend of girlfriend, you might be feeling a whole range of emotions. This article will help you explore those feelings and give you some great ideas of how you can manage them and start to move on from what wasn’t working for you (even if you really wanted it).
Not all relationships last forever. Sometimes, things just don’t work out. Often, no-one is to blame.
Why do relationships end?
There are lots of different reasons why relationships end. Break-ups can be hard. Whether you’re the person finishing the relationship or not, a break-up doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or that there’s anything wrong with you. When you go through a break-up, you might experience several different emotions. You might feel:
- Sad
- Lonely
- Angry
- Anxious
- Shocked
- Guilty
- Relieved
If you are trying to cope with a break-up, it might help to…
Talk
Talk to a friend or an adult you trust
Keep busy
Keep busy with hobbies and activities you enjoy
Look after yourself
This includes being kind to yourself, reminding yourself of all the good things about being you and practicing self-care by looking after your physical and mental health – think eating well, sleeping well and screen-free downtime!
Avoid posting details
Avoid posting details of the break-up on social media and maybe consider ‘muting’ the other person on your social media profile so you don’t have to see what they’re up to.
Hands off
No matter how big the argument is, or how angry a person may feel, it is important that people in the argument do not hit, push or touch each other in anger. Everyone has the right to feel safe. No one has the right to hit you and you don’t have the right to hit them.
It’s ok to be upset after a break-up but if it’s impacting on your life, or if you’re feeling down for a long time, it’s important to ask for help. Talk to an adult you trust, to a doctor, or to Childline.
Key takeaways
- Relationships end for all kinds of reasons, and break ups can be hard even if you’re the one who ended things.
- It’s a great idea to keep the details off social media, even if you feel angry or upset. Muting your ex is also a good idea if you’re struggling with seeing them online.
- Be kind to yourself, and remember to love yourself through it all.
- No matter what happens or how things end, nobody should be putting hands on anyone.
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