Summary
Losing someone you love is never easy, but it can feel even harder during the festive season. Christmas is often a time for family, love, and togetherness, which can bring up feelings of sadness, loneliness, or longing for the person who isn’t there. It’s okay to feel this way, and you don’t have to go through it alone.
Why Christmas Can Feel Harder When You’re Grieving
Christmas is everywhere – in the songs, the adverts, and the traditions. It’s a time that reminds us of special memories we’ve shared with the people we’ve lost, making their absence feel even more painful. It’s okay to find this time of year difficult, even if others around you seem happy and excited. Remember, grief doesn’t have a set timeline, and it’s important to be kind to yourself.
Honour Their Memory in a Way That Feels Right
There’s no right or wrong way to honour someone’s memory, you should choose what feels best for you.
This might mean lighting a candle, creating a small memory box with photos or items that remind you of them, or writing them a letter about how you’re feeling. You could also include them in your family traditions, like making their favourite meal or hanging a special ornament on the tree.
Take It One Day at a Time
Christmas can feel overwhelming with so many events and expectations. Try to focus on each day rather than the whole season. Let yourself feel your emotions, whether it’s sadness, anger, or even moments of joy. It’s okay to cry, laugh, or simply take a break if you need it.
Talk to Someone You Trust
Grief can feel really lonely, especially if you don’t think others around you understand. Try talking to someone you trust – a family member, friend, teacher, or Childline. You can call us right now, or click on the live chat now!
You don’t need to have all the words or explain everything perfectly – just saying “I’m finding this hard” can be a good start.
Set Boundaries and Take Care of Yourself
If family gatherings or social events feel overwhelming, let someone know and take time for yourself. Go for a walk, listen to music, or spend time doing something that feels calming. Self-care isn’t selfish – it’s a way of giving yourself the space you need to heal.
Key takeaways
- It’s okay to feel sad at Christmas – grief doesn’t follow a schedule.
- Find small ways to honour your loved one – there’s no “right” way to remember them.
- Talk to someone you trust if you’re struggling. You don’t have to go through it alone.
- Take care of yourself and focus on what helps you feel calm and supported.
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